When you're pregnant, you’re likely to hear it all: “My birth was like a dream!” or “I felt so calm and in control.” These are the positive birth stories we see all over Instagram and parenting blogs. Don’t get me wrong—I'm a huge advocate for positive birth stories. As a hypnobirthing teacher, I know how powerful the mind is in shaping our birth experiences.
But let’s have a little heart-to-heart: is focusing only on the sunshine-and-rainbows version of birth actually helping you prepare for the real deal?
The truth is, birth isn’t one-size-fits-all, and only sharing the “perfect” stories can paint an incomplete picture of what to expect. It’s like preparing for a marathon by only hearing about the runners who breezed through it—you miss the grit, the determination, and the strategies that got them to the finish line.
The Power of Stories (All of Them!)
Every birth story matters. Full stop. When we only share the "easy and dreamy" stories, we risk alienating those whose births didn’t go as planned. It can make new mums feel like their experience isn’t valid or, worse, that it’s not worth sharing. And that’s not okay.
That’s why I created the New Zealand Birth Story Podcast. It’s a space where mums can share it all—the highs, the lows, and everything in between. The podcast isn’t about scaring you or sugar-coating anything. It’s about giving you a wide lens on birth so you can feel empowered to make informed decisions and go into your birth with confidence, no matter what path it takes.
Why Balance Matters
When we embrace the full spectrum of birth experiences, we create space for growth, understanding, and preparation. Education is the game-changer. By learning about different possibilities, you’re better equipped to navigate the maternity system and create a calm, positive experience—even if things veer off course.
Here’s what I want you to take away:
Positive doesn’t mean perfect. A positive birth is one where you feel informed, respected, and supported—regardless of the outcome.
Your story is yours. Whether it’s a water birth at home or an unexpected C-section, your journey is valid and worth celebrating.
Education is everything. Knowledge gives you the confidence to advocate for yourself, make decisions, and handle unexpected twists with grace.
Ready to Take Charge of Your Birth Experience?
Let’s prepare for birth together! My Antenatal Classes in Auckland are designed to help you feel calm, confident, and informed—no matter what kind of birth you’re planning. We’ll cover everything you need to know, from practical tips to emotional preparation, so you can go into labour feeling ready for whatever comes your way.
Join me on this incredible journey. Let’s rewrite the narrative of birth together.
Let’s make your birth story one you’ll feel proud to share—whatever it looks like. ❤️
Donna x
Antenatal Classes Auckland
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